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i’m a 17 y/o male and am confused with my sexual orientation. i don’t know if i’m *** or straight anymore. personally, i don’t have anything against *** people it’s just that that’s not how i want to roll. My belief system - Catholicism - as well as many other factors influence me. I go to a therapist and talk about my ongoing struggle and work through it. It helps a little, but in the end i start feeling like crap and become “deppressed”.
One major issue in my life right now is that I’ve just met this girl. we’re really good friends and she likes me, she told me this. This, along with my confusion in orientation, just builds more stress and pain because the way i want to feel for her just isn’t happening - the intimate, butterflies-in-your-stomach, uncontrollable perspiring sensation isn’t there; not just for her, but any female i deem to be attractive. It really is a bummer because now there’s someone who i’ve been looking for who’s found me and things aren’t the way i…
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want to. i was convinced i was straight all this time until a few months ago. Life is just unfair.
I don’t know what to do because I’m afraid i’m going to hurt her because i don’t want to tell her about my issue because that might result in me losing her. Maybe that’s my ego. *sigh* all my life i’ve been looking, waiting for someone like her to come into my life, (when i was straight and still am), but now my uncertainty in sexual orientation kills me. what i’ve been waiting for for the majority of my life is here and i can’t accept it with open arms because of my f*cking bullsh*t untimely “change”. I want to be straight so i can give her all the love, care, and joy she deserves.
tell me this isn’t fair.
i hope some of you can relate.
also is my “confusion” due to my personal development, puberty and hormones, or something else? i don’t know. if i could come up with some device to help me resolve this confusion then i would get started on it. but that’s not how…
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this thing works.
i don’t know what to do.
i think i’m emotionally attached to her, but possibly not sexually. i want to be. (i’m not implying having ***…now. i have all my life for that.) i want to be straight like i used to before all this confusion.
help me sort through this. i want to like her the way she likes me, but like i said my confusion is stopping me. help me.
please and thank you.
thanks for all your answers.
i have not played with another male, nor have i had any “extracurricular” activities with them neither.
i guess my projection isn’t healthy, huh? i need time. thank you for the support.
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